“Happily ever after!” Myth or Real?

“They lived happily ever after! The end!”

Sound very familiar? This is the usual fairy tale happy ending where they would move to a faraway land, escaping from all the troubles and live happily ever after. We grew up listening to these sorts of stories expecting that we too will face a similar fate.

What is this happily ever after that most of us seek? Is it an illusion? Does it only apply to fairy tale characters? Have you ever wondered what suddenly happened?

Many years ago, I stumbled upon a book written by the renowned Venerable Ajahn, who puts into perspective the nature of the human mind and how to over come these periods of “rough patches”.

Like everything in life, this too will pass!

There is one story in particular that i would like to share –

Many years ago, some monks had bought a vast amount of land in Australia to build a monastery, they were out of funds to pay for construction and decided to do it themselves. Ven. Ajahn was given the responsibility of brick layering of the wall. He was a perfectionist. He made sure that every single brick was perfect, no matter how long it took. Eventually he completed his first brick wall and stood back to admire his craftsmanship. The first thing he noticed was that there were two bricks near the center of the wall that were not aligned properly. There were two bad bricks.

He wanted to destroy the wall and start over but was rejected by the head monk. This tormented him very much, for months he dwelled on the fact that the ugliest wall was built by him and he avoided taking visitors past the wall because he was ashamed of it.

But one day a visitor walked past the wall.

“That’s a nice wall!” he casually remarked.

The monk looked at the visitor and said “Are you blind? What are you talking about? Can’t you see the two bad bricks?”

What he said next changed the monk’s view of the wall, himself and many other aspects of life.

He said, “Yes. I can see two bad bricks and I can also see the 998 good bricks as well”

For the first time, the monk could see past the two bad bricks, at the good bricks that surround the two bad bricks. Before his eyes were only focused exclusively on his two mistakes and was blind to everything else. That was why he wanted to have the wall destroyed or was ashamed to showcase it to the visitors. Now that he could see the good bricks the wall did not look bad after all, in fact it looked almost perfect. That wall stands strong even after twenty years and with time the bad bricks became insignificant. The monk forgot exactly where those bad bricks are.

Too often in life, we focus on the two bad bricks and forget about all the perfect bricks on the top, towards the right, left and the bottom. Every time we look our eyes focus on the mistakes and the faults. We end up wanting to destroy the whole wall just because of two bad bricks and sadly sometimes we do destroy a very nice wall and regret afterwards.

Some end relationships or commit suicide due depression and self-loathing because they are focused on two bad bricks and blind to the good ones.

We have all got two bad bricks, but the perfect bricks in each of us much more. It’s easy to get caught up on the less important things in life and lose focus on what matters most. To live a happy life, we need to work on our perspectives and priorities. Focus on what truly matters and life will have a way to be that much brighter and fulfilling.

When put into proper perspective our problems are all in some way temporary.

Human nature is such that the negatives get amplified rather than the positives. If you are given a white A4 with a black dot, everyone would notice the black dot but what about the rest of the paper? Same theory applies with life, there are so many things to be happy about, to cherish, to be grateful for, to celebrate but world tend to focus on the negative and what goes wrong. The world will not always appreciate the good that you do, but will put you down for the mistake that you made, raise above the criticism and stay strong.

The grass is greener, not on the other side but where you water it.

In life things happen to us, things happen around us but what truly matters is what happens within us.

 

 

 

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My Journey!

You were my destination,

Seeking you was my journey,

I wished to be worthy of your care,

You were the One to complete Me,

Your absence makes my thoughts wonder right back to you,

You chose to stay unaware of my one-sided journey,

A journey which is more beautiful than the destination,

Unlike others, my love does not get divided between two hearts,

This is my one-sided journey.

 

 

 

 

Without You!

Even though incomplete,

My life is void from your absence,

My heart does not know any other way to live,

My passion is to be worthy of your undying love,

My destination does not belong to me anymore,

My journey, was beautiful but without you is tough,

My pain is companion,

I wish to stay aware of the extreme to which I love you,

If not on Earth, I come to you in the sky…..

My Love is complete!

The Guy…

The Guy realized that he had deep feelings for Her;

The Guy hated feelings.

The Guy did not want to feel what he was not comfortable feeling.

The Guy wanted to be left alone.

The Guy did not want to give another person the power to betray him.

The Guy was not ready to fall in Love.

The Guy tried to hide his feelings.

The Guy knew that hidden feelings intensified what he felt.

The Guy decided the solution was to get rid of Her.

The Guy got rid of Her memories.

The Guy went back to his old ways.

Only one more thing to do.

The Guy decided send Her far away.

The Guy got Her into a boat, tied Her and let the waves take the boat.

The Guy looked at Her one last time….. before letting go….

The Guy felt Her drifting away, over to the horizon and nothing…

Finally The Guy was free from deep feelings forever.

The Guy won… or so he thought….

Now The Guy had Lost Feeling….

 

Real Life Miracles….

When Live gets tough we pray for Miracles, without realizing, we come across Miracles in many forms;

A Miracle is;

Who made you smile when you forgot what happiness was,

Who gave you reason to live when you when you thought that all was lost,

Who trusted you when the whole world doubted you,

Who saw the faded light in you when you were ready to welcome the darkness,

Who inspired you to be the best of yourself when you at your lowest,

Who remained faithful when you have given up on faith,

Who were by your side when you thought you wanted to be left alone but really did not…

 

Dedicated to all the beautiful souls in my life…….

 

 

 

 

 

 

Haunted!

 

Way before I knew you,

I had another life,

A life without you,

I had my own struggles, my own relieves,

But never felt complete, neither did I feel incomplete.

One day, You came into my life without a warning,

I chose you & you chose me,

Fate brought us together,

By choice we tried to build a life together,

This was my life with you, Our life!

I felt complete, I loved you for loving me,

You loved my scars, I loved your darkness,

You are not perfect, but just right for me,

Your arms my home, kisses my comfort,

We would watch the endless stars or the busy roads from high above,

Let the world go by, we have each other is what I thought.

Alas! Disaster strikes,

Wide awake from my dream I look around,

You are no more by my side,

Our life shattered to pieces, right in front of me,

I could not do anything other than cry,

Once again it is only my life,

But not the same,

Beautiful moments, cherished as memories,

Haunt me day and night,

I fall into a sadness so sweet,

I yearn for the love i have seen in your eyes,

I cry myself to sleep, in my dreams I see you,

I wish I could sleep forever, be in your arms,

I know you are far away, out of my reach,

But still I love you, will keep loving you,

I hate that I miss something that doesn’t exist,

You were never mine to be,

I have forgotten my life before you,

My life that I can never go back to,

A life without you, with your memories,

I am forever haunted!

He is a paradox

He is devoted and yet detached.

He is possessive and yet uncommitted.

He is sociable but also a loner.

He is gentle and yet tough.

He is spontaneous and yet regretful when reality hits.

He is full of emotion and also logical at the same time.

He is passionate but can also be platonic.

He is egoistical and yet humble.

He is most understanding but also ignorant of present.

He is adventurous and yet scared to take a leap of faith.

He is sensitive but is also numb to feelings.

He is close and yet distant.

He is transparent while putting up walls.

He lets go while holding on.

He abandons what he thought of cherishing.

He walks out on what he wants to pursue.

He kisses her good bye because he loves her.

He is convinced of the possible future but blind of the definite present.

He is predictable in his unpredictability…